Wednesday, July 23, 2014

Why I love my OB

I just saw this sitting as a draft in my blog posts and I'm not sure why I didn't publish it way back when I wrote it
There are a million reasons why I love my doctor but lately I am so confident that I made the right decision to stick with her.

I have been going to my OB/GYN forever.  I have always really liked her but I did consider changing docs when I first found out I was pregnant.  Looking back now, that would have been so stupid.  I actually had people telling me to change doctors because I would want to deliver at HOAG in Newport Beach instead of Long Beach Memorial. "HOAG has ocean views and a candle light dinner the night you deliver.  They call it hotel HOAG."  Well that's nice and all but Long Beach Memorial is an excellent hospital and trauma center.  Their reputation in medical care far out weighs the "luxury" benefits of HOAG and I can't believe I even considered this in the beginning.  Not to mention I think I will be more concerned with looking at my child than looking at the ocean.

The other reason I considered switching was because I soon found out that my doctor works at a practice of 6 doctors and I would have to now rotate my appointments with all of them because I was not guaranteed my doctor for my delivery.  I would get whom ever was on call that day. This was the biggest disappointment.  In the end I decided to stick with the doctor I already knew I liked and give the others in her practice a shot.  Well they all were nice/fine but what I quickly learned was that my doctor had told them to schedule me with her at every other appointment and when I asked her what my chances were of having her be there on the day she said she will do everything in her power to be there.  I honestly think she really does care and wants to be there for my delivery.  At this point even if she isn't, I've been so impressed with the care I have gotten over the last 10 months it doesn't even matter if she's there.  I will still be singing her praises.  She has taken such good care of our family.

I think the most important thing when choosing a doctor is making sure you are on the same page with what kind of pregnancy and delivery you want to have.  This is where my doc and I are perfectly matched.  I would read about something new or alternative and ask her about it and she was always up to date and knowledgeable about it. Basically she's up with the current trends.  No more episiotomies, trying perineal massage, walking around during labor, less checking the cervix for dilation (in fact I wasn't checked until 39 weeks because it is now seen as unnecessary and uncomfortable), helping me to do everything in my power to avoid cesarean section etc, etc. She was an advocate for exercise, healthy eating, and maintaining a normal life style during pregnancy.  She doesn't treat pregnancy like an illness when it's actually a really healthy time in your life.  I was surprised at how many people were told to lay around and act like they were sick. "Here's a list of 50 different medications that it is ok to take but be sure not to overdo it on exercise".  That seems crazy to me. On top of that I heard people say their doctor asked them if they wanted to do an elective c-section. I think if she had asked me that it would have been an immediate red flag.

I had an unbelievably healthy and comfortable pregnancy and although I know some of that is lucky, I know a lot of it is the advice and care I received from my doc.

Thank you Dr. Koe and I really hope to see you at my delivery :)

If anyone in the Orange County or LA area needs a great OB/GYN, here is a link to her website. Long Beach OB/GYN  Her name is Dr. Karen Koe.

I was also really impressed with Dr. Laurie Endo.

**One warning, there's a receptionist there that can be very rude in a "I just can't put my finger on it" passive aggressive kind of way.  She talks down to the patients and can be disrespectful in keeping people's private info private at the window.  I can hold my own and haven't really had a problem but I did see an elderly woman and her husband get pretty upset one day while I was waiting.  It's annoying but worth suffering through to get to see a great doctor.

Blake Olivia: 10 months

This month's little photo shoot was not a huge success.  She was clearly not in the mood for this and I didn't have a plain white onesie in her size so I tried to cover up the writing on one with her month sticker.  I'd try again but it's just too much trouble.  I kind of like these pics anyway.  She rarely cries so these are pretty funny.  

This one cracks me up.  The look on her face says so much.  I really pissed her off ;) 
Also, she is the spitting image of my sister. 

What's been going on this month:

  • Her hair is finally really starting to grow.  I was worried there for a bit that I would be doing headbands forever.  Her curls in the back are the cutest and she has hair exactly like her mom and dad.  Blonde with natural curls (yes Kyle and I have really similar hair).  Sorry girlie, you will need to learn early how to use that flat iron because frizz runs in the fam on both sides.  
  • She is (some of the time) waving, clapping, & kissing.  She's also understanding more signs now and is sometimes doing them back.  She can do "all done" and she understands "nurse/breastfeed" and "more".  When I make the sign for nursing she gets a huge smile on her face.  It's really cute.  Now that she is understanding more I'd like to start doing more signing.  
  • She in finally crawling.  I feel like we waited forever for this one but in reality she has been right on time with all of her developmental milestones, including crawling.  
  • She loves to spin around in circles on her bum too.
  • She is also pulling up to standing and cruising along the couch and coffee table.  She stands up on any and everything she can get her hands on and is getting stronger by the day.
  • At the end of her naps I find her sitting up in the crib now.  It was a little shocking the first time.  
  • Blake went on her first vacation to Cabo.  She loved it and we didn't have any of those problems that baby websites will tell you about when travelling like sleep problems etc.  Probably because we still are co-sleeping most of the time anyway. She loved swimming in the pool and all of the attention she got from strangers.  Our server one night said she literally "had to hold her" and Blake went right to her.  She also loves the attention so much that she has started staring people down who don't acknowledge her.  It's funny but probably a little rude ;)
  • She still does not sleep through the night but I guess I have given up on that.  It will come when the time is right and it doesn't bother me that much anymore.  I just wish we had a bigger bed so we would all be more comfortable.  I keep her in her crib until that point in the night where I'm just too tired to try again and she gets in bed with us. 
  • After Cabo/at the end of our trip, we all got a cold.  This was the first time Blake has ever been sick but it was really minor.  Still, it's hard to see your little one struggling to breathe through her nose and having even the smallest discomfort.  
  • Blake's facial expressions have gone to a new level.  She started with duck face and then to a pissed off scrunched up face.  Her eyebrows are so expressive and I find myself always making excuses for her saying "it's not you, she just makes that face all the time" but who knows if that's the truth.  
  • She has 5 teeth now.  The top 2 and 3 on the bottom.  They are practically popping up weekly now
  • We are all loving the new house and Blake adjusted just fine to her new bedroom.  She has tons of room to play now which is awesome.
  • She HATES having her diaper changed and has to be distracted with something when on the changing table every single time. 
  • She loves her Cheerios and has expanded her palate to lots of different foods now.  She pretty much likes everything.  She usually lets me know she's done by smacking the spoon out of my hand and spilling the food everywhere. This is why we are working so hard on that "all done" sign ;)
  • She also loves her books and story time.  She loves to turn the pages and I only read her the board books now because she is too destructive with the pages in the paper books.
  • I am still nursing and still pumping at work.  The whole experience has been so worth it but pumping and working really sucks.  It's been difficult in my line of work because it's really hard to step away from my busy section of tables to take a break and my co-workers, who are forced to help me out, really don't care or understand the importance of it.  I don't expect them to but still it makes things hard when you work for tips.  That 15 minutes away from a table can really cause things to go south.  

Sunday, July 20, 2014

German Nivea

I've been hearing about German Nivea for a few months now.  The rumor is that it is basically the same recipe as Creme de la Mer.  I compared the ingredients and it is very similar but it's not exactly the same.  The reason that it has to be German is that, apparently, America puts things in their products that are banned elsewhere.  America uses petroleum in skin care products all the time, which is, I am told, bad for our skin.  Anyway, I figured why not try it since it is seriously cheap.  This huge tin, I think 13.5 ounces was $15 on  So far I really like it.  It smells great and is really thick and moisturizing.  I have somewhat dry skin so someone with oily skin might hate it.  

Thursday, July 17, 2014


I think it's so funny how food can be trendy.  I understand how healthy "superfoods" come and go in trends but fruit, really?  Pineapple is having it's moment right now.  It's all over fashion and parties.  Pineapple themed this and that.  A little while ago it was lemons. Anyway just to jump on board, I bought an Old Navy tank with gold pineapples on it and we are having a Hawaiian luau themed 1st birthday for Blake (Kyle's idea BTW).

I love this presentation for pineapple.  My step mom has been doing it for years and I tried it today and it was surprisingly really easy.  I might even try doing a bunch for Blake's birthday party.  Then again maybe not.  We'll see...

Saturday, June 14, 2014

Father's Day

What do you get for your Dad of the Year?
How about a cake made of ice cold beer...

This was one of the easiest craft gifts ever.  It took 30 beers, 3 cake rounds from Hobby Lobby, some ribbon, Washi tape, bakers twine, and 2 cake pop sticks.  Done and done.  Voila!

Blake Olivia: 9 months

What's been happening this month:

  • Whisper Babbling.  It sounds like kakakaktatatata.  Aunt Kylie swears she is saying "hi Ky"
  • She is still normal babbling also.  Lots of momomomomomom and dadadadadada.
  • Blake is giving kisses.  They are wet ones with an open mouth but we love them.
  • She super ticklish now and loves to be tickled.  She cracks up before you even touch her. 
  • She still loves her baby and is sleeping with her.
  • She is sleeping on her side.
  • Second bottom tooth cut through and we have signs of the two top teeth.
  • Blake is waving hi and bye bye.
  • Sleeping through the night a little bit more and we have stopped co sleeping and I'm trying the pick up/put down method again.  That is the Baby Whisperer and The No Cry Sleep Solution method.   It has been working pretty well. 
  • I have switched to Cheerios from Gerber Puffs and Blake loves them.  Her fine motor skills are really good and she figured out how to feed herself pretty easily.  
  • We had a serious heat wave for about a week so Blake spent her days in a diaper sucking on ice cubes through the mesh bag pacifier things.  
  • She also learned to drink some water from a cup and water bottle.  I don't giver her water regularly yet but she enjoys practicing with the cup.
  • She is still not crawling yet but she is soooooo close.  She's just really mellow and doesn't have a huge drive to get across the room.  She's always able to get to the thing that she wants though.  The doctor had us a little freaked out about this.  She wasn't concerned with crawling but at Blake's 9 month appointment she said she was delayed because she isn't pulling up to standing independently and cruising.  Personally, I thought 9 months is a little early to be so concerned.  She is still totally in the normal zone and has not been early on any other of her milestones.  She also has really good verbal and fine motor skills so I'm not going to let the doctor get to me....yet.
  • We moved again.  We are so happy in our new house but moving with a baby is incredibly hard.  We had to have an extra person there at all times to help with the baby.  Luckily we have tons of family around us to help out.  
  • Cody has started "helping" with night wakings.  There have been a few times when I didn't wake up immediately when she started to fuss.  Cody makes sure to come to my bedside and wake me up with a bark, growl, or a paw nudge :)

Monday, May 19, 2014

Blake Olivia: 8 months

What's been happening this month:

  • Well I've tried everything (excluding CIO) and Blake is officially my 30 minute napper.  I give up.  It means we have busy days and not a lot of time to myself but oh well, babies are only little for so long right, so I'm enjoying our time together. 
  • On the other hand, our nights have been much better.  We started co-sleeping out of desperate need for sleep but I always put her down in her crib first, at bedtime.  I have given up on the 3am fight and put her in bed with us if I need to.  It works out pretty well and her first stretch of sleep (in the crib) has gotten longer and longer and she basically sleeps through the night again now.  It's hard on my sleep (and my back) but I actually love having her close to me at night.  We are much less stressed about sleep now and way more rested.
  • I still follow a loose schedule because a strict one just didn't work for us.  I like to have some order to my day but we aren't chained to the house because of a nap schedule.
  • FINALLY she likes to eat food!! This was a huge breakthrough and she just changed one day all of a sudden.  She has tried lots of different things now and has had no allergies and really hasn't hated anything.  I'm hoping she won't be a picky eater.
  • With her new love of food came the major poop change. It's pretty gross now and we will be installing a diaper sprayer at the new house.  Still, it's not that much harder and I'm sticking with the cloth diapers :)
  • She cut her first tooth.  Her bottom left central incisor to be exact.  I'm sure it probably hurt but she didn't fuss too much about it.
  •  She is giving kisses, sometimes, when we ask.
  • She went swimming in the pool and had her first beach day. She loved both.
  • She's getting more hair but it's still not a lot.
  • She has a favorite baby doll that has become her lovie and she's sleeping with her now.
  • She's scooting backwards but not crawling yet.
  • She's babbling like crazy now.  It's started with nananana and now mmamamama, dadadada, kakakakaka, tatatata, babababa. 
  • No more pacifier.  She just decided she doesn't like it anymore.  I hear that it's for the best and I won't have to wean her later but it would be nice if she had something to soothe herself other than my boob. 
  • And one of the best things, her hair grabbing has really lightened up.  Thank god because I really couldn't afford to lose anymore than I already have.